Is our house in order?

God says in the Word that you must have your affairs in order.  That is, as a husband or a Dad, you must have your house in order before He can entrust you with His affairs.

This is one of the touchiest subjects on this planet.  When a subject like this is spoken of, there are a lot of emotions, feelings, anger, resentment, pride, lack of control, and submission issues that pop up.  So let’s just break it all down so one can fully understand our Godhead and its order.

In the Kingdom of God, there is this thing called the Godhead,  It’s the order by which all things fall in line to create perfect order, similar to our military.  In our military the line of order goes as such:

#1        Commander in Chief

#2        Secretary of Defense

#3        Secretary of the Army

#4        Army chief of staff & Sergeant major of the army

The list goes on and on down the line until it gets to new recruits or privates.  Each has a rank and has to be obedient to the next in rank.  There is no room for disobedience at all, zero tolerance.

This is the only way there can be a complete order in anything.  There needs to be a head and as the ranks decrease the lesser rank, need to be obedient to its superior.

So in marriage, we need to look at the chain of command set up by God for us.  Now one difference in these two different chains of command that is in God’s chain, the perfect submission ends when it hits man.  The true Godhead starts with God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, Angels, and so on.  Those ranks are in perfect unity, perfect submission in the Godhead all following what God has said, directed, and ordained.  In the army, if one breaks rank, you get a court-martialed or are thrown in jail.  Their submission is forced, but works.

So back to husband, wife, and family:

God has made man to be head of the household, head of the marriage.  He must be commander in chief and have his house in perfect submission or he is disqualified from doing God’s work unless he is single or she is single.

God set up the ranks like this, God then Jesus then:

the husband,

then the wife,

and then the children.

• Children are to honor and submit to their parents
• Wives are to submit to their husbands as they would unto Jesus
• Husband submit to your wives as Jesus did to the church
• Husbands are to wash their wives with the Word of God.
• Wives are called to be Proverbs 31 wives.

If the Word of God says when a husband and wife get married they become one flesh, then this means there can only be one head and one body.

It’s supposed to work like this: the husband hears from God and sends down the message or commands; he does this because they came from above and this is what he is called to do.  In order for this to happen successfully, the husband needs to be heavenly-minded, walking as a citizen of heaven and in His Word on a daily basis, his focus has to be on God, His purpose and His plan, the husband needs to be led by God and not the world.

The husband also needs to know his enemy and how to protect his family from it.  If the husband has one foot in the world or is carnal/worldly in any way, his protective wall of defense against the enemy will be weak and the enemy will get through.  We cannot let the enemy through.  Here are the forces that work against our Godhead.  These are the things we need to contend with/combat in order to have our house in order.

Our first enemy is the world…as children of God we live in this world, but are not supposed to be conformed to it.  The word submit doesn’t exist in the world, it’s frowned upon and in the world, women are equal to men.  As a matter of fact, the woman or wife is the boss according to the world.

You see in Genesis 3:16, God cursed man and woman for Adam and Eve eating the forbidden fruit and the curse on the woman was 2-fold, one is childbirth pain and the second is that God has made the husband the head of there one flesh, but the woman will desire to be the man or the head.  This is the curse and why the majority of women want to be in control.

So if you take that little tidbit of information into consideration that explains everything and why we see our world crumbling in front of us.  In the world, our Godless society, man does not recognize its head, which is God.  So he plans his own way which leads to evil, then the world tells us that women are equal and don’t have to submit leaving women with no head to do as they please which leads to evil.  Now you have the husband and wife both doing and planning their own agenda/path basically living off of pure instinct just like animals, which leads to evil and then who’s left?  Yes, their children and the only example for them to fall under is plain evil.  They stand by, unable to do anything but watch, learn, and develop and this is the devil’s plan and purpose, to destroy our families from within.

This is what the Christian family has to contend with, so in most Christian homes, the worldly outcome of the family chain of command exists.

It’s time for our Christian husbands to take control and listen to God and lead our families.

Husbands need to be going to God, hearing from God, instructing their wives and family, keeping evil from them.

Is our home a true, authentic Christian home where we can genuinely say as for me and my house we will serve the Lord or is our home a lost and deceived Christian home that has its doors open to demons?  A true Christian home needs a leader.  Now God has called the husband to be the head of the household and to have a truly Christian home.  It all starts with the husband’s relationship with Jesus.  Does the husband truly submit to God in the way that it is laid out for us in the Bible?  The husband has to be a slave to Christ, rely on Christ for all things and be in His Word every day, be praying, and be fasting.  His relationship with Christ has to be of the utmost importance, so he stays connected to the all-powerful source of his spiritual strength in order for his house to be in order.  A husband has to be the one who sets the order in the house.  He has to be the battle guardian and stand against the devil and his schemes in order to keep order.

A husband has to recognize evil and its many forms in this world.  He has to be in the world, but not of it.  He has to know his purpose because without purpose, does anything else matter?  A husband has to have the final say, no matter what because the husband is the one communicating with the Lord about all the family decisions and ultimately responsible for those decisions.

The husband is the CEO of his family, like in any company there is a board, this is the family.  Some board members get to state their cases, others do not.  The same goes for the family.  The wife has a voice and can peaceably make her request known.  Children, on the other hand, do not.  They can ask the Mom and the Mom can ask the Dad, ultimately the Dad/CEO will make the final decision, under God’s direction might I add, but will have the final decision.

You see when God brings a man and woman together in marriage.  They became one flesh, one body.  The man remains the head and the woman becomes the body.  The man has to be in prayer, reading his Word and petition God for direction for the family.  The wife should be in prayer also for the husband to hear clearly from God for them and their family.

A husband must keep his wife and children from the likes of the devil.  The devil runs this world and all its lusts.  The husband must be the rule maker and keep all God’s commandments and laws for the family to follow.  He cannot let the world pull them in.  The husband’s job is to protect his family and keep order, for he is the commander in chief and has to keep order.  He has to keep God, Jesus, prayer, the Bible, and ministry as his top priority for his family.

This is the only way to truly have a Christian family and this is what it looks like:

• A husband who loves Christ more than everything
• A husband who has complete control of his family
• A husband who is a slave to Christ
• A husband who washes his wife with the word
• A husband who loves his children and keeps them from falling into the world’s lusts
• A husband who has a heart after heavenly affairs
• A husband who loves studying the Word of God
• A husband who manages his household well
• A wife who loves Christ
• A wife who is living Proverbs 31
• A wife who submits to her husband
• A wife who looks out for her family
• A wife who teaches their children
• A wife who is in her Word
• A wife who prays
• A wife who is not contentious
• A wife who is a peacemaker
• A wife who does not follow the world’s patterns
• Children who obey
• Children who love God, love Christ and pray
• Children who read their Word
• Children who do not follow the patterns of the world

This is the outcome for a house in order, 100% no question.  The lost Christian home is just chaotic.  A lost Christian home is where you have individuals who claim to be Christians, but their home life and their walk speaks to its contrary.

The lost Christian home is in fact, not a Christian home at all.  In this home the husband has no say and when he does there is a battle against it.  Usually, in the lost Christian home (LCH) the wife wears the pants.  She wears the pants because the curse of Genesis 3:16 is in full effect.  She is going to want to be the head so she is the head.  She is contentious.  She does what she wants and lets the kids do what they want.  The husband has no voice.  Since the husband does not have a voice, he just needs to make sure his wife is happy, “happy wife, happy life” is the worldly motto.  Since the Mom is in charge, there is no guidance for anyone.  Satan is in complete control because if the husband is not the head, then no one can be.  You see this is the way of the world.  In this LCH there is lots of fighting, arguing, disobedience, contention, and sadness, resulting in a fatherless home which leads to drugs, alcohol, and sex among teens.  The husband of the LCH just becomes a worldly statistic accepting that this just how family life is.

Well, the only reason why family becomes a LCH is the lack of leadership and the husband is letting the wife rule.  This is completely ungodly and is a scheme if the devil.  God has a plan, a plan of order, a plan of discipline, a plan to salvation, a plan to repentance and a plan for the family.

Husbands just need to man up love their wives, wash them with the Word of God, keep their children from the devils lusts by teaching them God’s Word, by leading by example, lead them properly, don’t let the world seep in through secular friends, we must be diligent in our Godly pursuit of a true Christian Home for anything else is a recipe for failure.